Saturday, March 31, 2012

Schwarzenegger to replace Mickey Rourke as gay rugby player Gareth Thomas in film

Schwarzenegger to replace Mickey Rourke as gay rugby player Gareth Thomas in film

Catholic Cardinal: Church will relax its approach to civil marriages for gay couples

Catholic Cardinal: Church will relax its approach to civil marriages for gay couples

In an alternate universe, I am about to graduate from high school, and this will be my prom date.


In an alternate universe, I am about to graduate from high school, and this will be my prom date. We’ll go in his older brother’s pickup, and we’ll stay out all night talking about our plans for the future. By the time the morning sun illuminates the rising fog, we will have made a great many important decisions. We’re going to hike the Appalachian Trail in the summer, we’ll go to college, we’ll travel, become school teachers, get married, buy a nice little house and when we’re about 25 or so, we’ll think about having kids of our own.

Every time I kiss him, I'll remember the way he looked in his white suit the night we decided to spend the rest of our lives together.

Vegas Wedding



MSNBC's Chris Matthews Sides With Tony Perkins

MSNBC's Chris Matthews Sides With Tony Perkins

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Often when public figures who have said controversial things appear on shows like Hardball, their controversial remarks are addressed. If I was a public figure, and I said reading Nancy Drew turns little girls into serial killers, would Chris Matthew ignore this if he invited me on his show to discuss children’s literature? The show is called Hardball, but Tony Perkins gets off easy. If Chris Matthew wants Tony Perkins on his show, then fine. I don’t believe in silencing anyone either. But let’s see Matthews play some real hardball with Perkins.

"Why would you say that? Are you comparing being gay to belonging to the KKK?" "Would it be okay for a business to discriminate against Christians or straight people?" "Who wrote this study you cite?" "Why would you cite someone whose methods and findings have been sharply criticized by experts?"

WATCH: Does Anyone Stop Bullies From Picking on Kids With Gay Parents?

WATCH: Does Anyone Stop Bullies From Picking on Kids With Gay Parents?

Friday, March 30, 2012

Mike Huckabee Uses Fox Show to Call on Everyone to See Bully

Mike Huckabee Uses Fox Show to Call on Everyone to See Bully

NOM & Pat Robertson's Anti-LGBT Rhetoric Profiled in GLAAD's Commentator Accountability Project

NOM & Pat Robertson's Anti-LGBT Rhetoric Profiled in GLAAD's Commentator Accountability Project

A Stroke Turned Me Gay - I Woke Up Gay - BBC Three

UPDATE: Incriminating Photo Of Couple Arrested On Gay Cruise Surfaces

UPDATE: Incriminating Photo Of Couple Arrested On Gay Cruise Surfaces

Kentucky T-Shirt Controversy Reveals Conservative Intent To Discriminate And Stigmatize

Kentucky T-Shirt Controversy Reveals Conservative Intent To Discriminate And Stigmatize: A Kentucky t-shirt company called Hands On recently refused to print apparel for Lexington’s upcoming LGBT pride festival, claiming to be a Christian company. The Gay and Lesbian Services Organization of Lexington filed a complaint with the city’s Human Rights Commission, which protects against discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. National conservative groups...

Maggie Gallagher Defends NOM’s Race-Wedging Memos: ‘I Don’t Apologize For Any Of It’

Maggie Gallagher Defends NOM’s Race-Wedging Memos: ‘I Don’t Apologize For Any Of It’: The National Organization for Marriage’s Maggie Gallagher made her first public appearance today on MSNBC with Thomas Roberts, four days after confidential memos detailing NOM’s race-wedging tactics were released. In her appearance, she continued NOM’s incredulous PR strategy of continuing to spotlight people of color who oppose marriage equality and attempting to win their favor...

Mitt Romney Secretly Gave Race-Wedging NOM $10,000 In 2008

Mitt Romney Secretly Gave Race-Wedging NOM $10,000 In 2008: Records show that Mitt Romney secretly funneled $10,000 to the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) in 2008 through the Alabama chapter of his Free and Strong America PAC. Alabama’s lax financial disclosure laws helped keep the donation hidden until a NOM whistle-blower shared it with the Human Rights Campaign. The donation was made just weeks...

Mayors Of DC And LA Condemn NOM’s Race-Baiting

Mayors Of DC And LA Condemn NOM’s Race-Baiting: DC Mayor Vincent Gray and Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa, both Mayors for the Freedom to Marry, have spoken out against the National Organization for Marriage’s race-baiting tactics as revealed this week in confidential memos: VILLARAIGOSA: We need to come together as a country if we are going to tackle our biggest challenges. NOM’s divisive effort to pit...

Federal Judge Refuses To Reinstate Student Leader Who Supported Inclusive Prom

Federal Judge Refuses To Reinstate Student Leader Who Supported Inclusive Prom: U. S District Judge Richard W. Story was sympathetic that Atlanta high school student Reuben Lack was removed from his position as student council president for trying to implement a prom court inclusive of same-sex couples, but he refused to reinstate Lack to his leadership role. Lawyers for the school argued that Lack was removed...

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Use ‘Religious Liberty’ As A Catalyzing Red Herring

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Use ‘Religious Liberty’ As A Catalyzing Red Herring: Nothing has catalyzed religious conservatives in recent years quite like idea of “religious liberty,” and the notion that the expansion of LGBT and women’s rights will somehow infringe upon that freedom. It has been at the core of the National Organization for Marriage’s agenda against same-sex marriage, and in the 2009 confidential memos released this...

Mitt Romney's PAC Funded Anti-Gay Marriage Group Under The Radar

Mitt Romney's PAC Funded Anti-Gay Marriage Group Under The Radar

Matt Barber says #glaadcap profile is 'out-of-context, cherry-picked'; prove it, tough guy

Matt Barber says #glaadcap profile is 'out-of-context, cherry-picked'; prove it, tough guy

Republicans retreat on gay marriage

Republicans retreat on gay marriage

Southeastern Seminary rallies support for gay-marriage ban

Southeastern Seminary rallies support for gay-marriage ban        

Glenn T. Stanton: Same-sex "marriage" not only redefines marriage wholesale for everyone, but it actually deconstructs humanity itself.

Read more here.

Linda Harvey Decries Obama's 'Insulting Rebellion in the Face of God'

Linda Harvey Decries Obama's 'Insulting Rebellion in the Face of God'

Bryan Fischer Discovers 'The Ten Commandments of Secular Sharia'

Bryan Fischer Discovers 'The Ten Commandments of Secular Sharia'

Romney and Santorum Rally with Corrupt Lobbyist Ralph Reed in Wisconsin

Romney and Santorum Rally with Corrupt Lobbyist Ralph Reed in Wisconsin

More FRC Hypocrisy: Only Conservatives Should be allowed to Boycott Companies

More FRC Hypocrisy: Only Conservatives Should be allowed to Boycott Companies

North Carolinians support, but don't understand marriage amendment

North Carolinians support, but don't understand marriage amendment

John Waters The enigmatic auteur on his weird childhood, the sorry style of today's rebels and the social importance of bad taste

John Waters

It's All Because (The Gays Are Getting Married)

NOM Responds To Controversy With Even More Blatant Race-Baiting, Julian Bond Reacts

NOM Responds To Controversy With Even More Blatant Race-Baiting, Julian Bond Reacts

Proposition 5 Anchorage: Real Faces, Real Discrimination -- Drew

‘Bully’ Documentary Opens Unrated Today

‘Bully’ Documentary Opens Unrated Today: The documentary Bully opens today in Los Angeles and New York, and in response to the MPAA’s refusing to lower its ‘R’ rating, it will be distributed unrated. As a result Cinemark theaters will not show the film, Regal and Carmike will still screen it as an “R,” and it’s still in question whether Landmark...

Christianists are upset because the film Bully will be released as unrated

Read more here.

Transgender Teacher Forced to Quit Job in New Mexico

Transgender Teacher Forced to Quit Job in New Mexico

Dolphins Engage In Bisexuality And Even Homosexuality: Study

Dolphins Engage In Bisexuality And Even Homosexuality: Study

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Antigay Attack Under Investigation in Ohio College Town

Antigay Attack Under Investigation in Ohio College Town

MLS Suspends Colin Clark for Antigay Slur

MLS Suspends Colin Clark for Antigay Slur

The Onion: Bigot Group Recommended Alienating Gays From Blacks

Bigot Group Recommended Alienating Gays From Blacks

Hellbound Teaser Trailer

Civil rights leader: NOM e-mails 'scary'

Broadway Bares XXII: Behind the Scenes

Brian Brown responds to the confirmation that NOM's goal is to drive a wedge between gays and blacks.

Read his comments here.

Tuscaloosa Schools Will Allow Same-Sex Couples To Attend Prom

Tuscaloosa Schools Will Allow Same-Sex Couples To Attend Prom: The Southern Poverty Law Center has helped achieve a big victory for gay students in Tuscaloosa, Alabama: same-sex couples will be welcome at prom. The question came up in January when 10th-grader Elizabeth Garret wore a sweatshirt that read, “Warning, This Individual Infected With ‘The Gay,’ Proceed With Caution.” A school administrator demanded she take the...

‘Gay Propaganda’ Bill Reaches Russian Parliament

‘Gay Propaganda’ Bill Reaches Russian Parliament: A controversial anti-gay bill that bans the promotion of “homosexual propaganda” was introduced into Russia’s lower house of Parliament today, less than two weeks after similar legislation was signed into law in St. Petersburg, Russia by Governor Georgy Poltavchenko. The bill, which “calls for fines of up to 500,000 rubles ($16,500) for promoting a gay...

Kansas House Advances ‘Religious License To Discriminate’ Legislation

Kansas House Advances ‘Religious License To Discriminate’ Legislation: Kansas state Republicans want to make sure residents can discriminate against LGBT people, so much so that they have advanced a bill that would allow individuals to sue the government if they are deprived of the opportunity to do so. Yesterday, the Kansas House overwhelmingly passed HB 2384, the Kansas Preservation of Religious Freedom Act, which...

Study: More Conservatives Than Ever Distrust Science

Study: More Conservatives Than Ever Distrust Science: Just 35 percent of self-identified conservatives said they had a “great deal of trust in science” in 2010, a new report published in the journal American Sociological Review reveals. The finding marks a 28 percent decline since the first survey taken in 1974, “when 48 percent of conservatives—about the same percentage as liberals—trusted science.” According...

Malta Will Introduce ‘Civil Partnerships’ For Gay Couples

Malta Will Introduce ‘Civil Partnerships’ For Gay Couples: The Maltese government is preparing to introduce legislation to recognize same-sex couples, according to Malta Today. Justice Minister Chris Said told Malta Today that government recognition of “civil partnerships” would begin under a cohabitation bill still being discussed. Said promised that the bill would be presented to Parliament, although he did not offer a timeline...

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Recruit A ‘Next Generation’ Of Ivy League Pro-Chastity ‘Elites’

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Recruit A ‘Next Generation’ Of Ivy League Pro-Chastity ‘Elites’: The National Organization for Marriage knows that there is a huge generation gap on the issue of same-sex marriage. A study published last August by the Public Religion Research Institute found that millennials (those currently 18-29 years old) support LGBT rights at significantly (and increasingly) higher rates than older age groups. Unsurprisingly, NOM’s confidential strategy memos...

Poll: 58 Percent of NC Voters Support Amendment One, 34 Percent Are Uninformed

Poll: 58 Percent of NC Voters Support Amendment One, 34 Percent Are Uninformed: Fifty-eight percent of likely voters in North Carolina said they would vote in favor of the state’s inequality amendment, even as thirty-four percent of those same respondents admit to not knowing what the bill entails, a new survey released by Public Policy Polling shows. The number of voters who said they would vote ‘yes’ dropped...

Conservative Justices Let Feds Off The Hook For Illegally Revealing That A Man Has HIV

Conservative Justices Let Feds Off The Hook For Illegally Revealing That A Man Has HIV: Under the federal Privacy Act, it is illegal for federal agencies to reveal a person’s confidential medical information. Nevertheless, the Social Security Administration did exactly that when it revealed to another agency that a California man is HIV positive. In a 5-3 decision yesterday (Kagan was recused) the Supreme Court effectively held that this man...

Santorum is from God? I thought he was from outer space.

Pastor: 'Santorum is from God' -- Christians are Uniting with Santorum

Jerry Boykin Explains Why He Endorsed Rick Santorum

Steve King Rails Against Right to Privacy, Laments that States Cannot Outlaw Contraceptives

Steve King Rails Against Right to Privacy, Laments that States Cannot Outlaw Contraceptives

David Barton on the Environment, Abortion, and Michael Vick

Barber: "No Evidence" Gays are Targets of Violence, Discrimination

Garlow Says Satan is behind 'The Radical Gay Homosexual Agenda,' then Demands Gays 'Dial Down the Rhetoric'

Garlow Says Satan is behind 'The Radical Gay Homosexual Agenda,' then Demands Gays 'Dial Down the Rhetoric'

Focus On The Family's anti-gay Obama poll.

See it here.

Mother of 9/11 HeroMy Son Was Gay... And Tougher Than Carson Daly

Mother of 9/11 HeroMy Son Was Gay... And Tougher Than Carson Daly

Faithful America Members Confront Chris Matthews

African American Leaders Condemn NOM’s Race-Wedging As Artificial And Exploitative

African American Leaders Condemn NOM’s Race-Wedging As Artificial And Exploitative: The National Organization for Marriage’s confidential memos released this week reveal the group’s insidious attempts to foster racial divisions to further its opposition to the freedom to marry. The leaders of various groups that advocate for African-Americans are now speaking out to condemn the exploitative tactics. Adding to comments made by Chairman Emeritus Julian Bond earlier this week...

It's the Gay Benny Hill Show

Carson Daly Releases Statement Following Discussion With GLAAD

Carson Daly Releases Statement Following Discussion With GLAAD

A Starbucks Boycott Backfires

A Starbucks Boycott Backfires

How an Anti-Gay Group Made Coffee Lovers of Us All

Duke University Student Government unanimously approved a resolution denouncing Amendment One at its meeting Wednesday

DSG Senate resolution formally denounces Amendment One

Tennessee bill would expand students' religious rights

Tennessee bill would expand students' religious rights

Santorum: ‘Friends Don’t Let Friends Use Pink Balls’

Santorum: ‘Friends Don’t Let Friends Use Pink Balls’: Rick Santorum jokingly chastised a boy for using a pink bowling ball during a campaign stop in Wisconsin on Wednesday. According to Reuters reporter Sam Youngman, Santorum told a boy who reached for a pink bowling ball: “You’re not gonna use the pink ball. We’re not gonna let you do that. Not on camera,” adding...

Anchorage Baptist Temple: 61% of the funds driving anti-Prop 5 efforts

Anchorage Baptist Temple: 61% of the funds driving anti-Prop 5 efforts

Irish president slams homophobia in message to youth organisation

Irish president slams homophobia in message to youth organisation

Report from United Arab Emirates: Two men jailed for kissing in public

Two men jailed for kissing in public

Kristen Bell for Americans for Marriage Equality

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

A&F Hot Boy Shower Kiss | Give it up-Turn it loose

Katie Couric: Little Girls Can Be Bullies

Katie Couric: Little Girls Can Be Bullies

A Lesson for Carson Daly on 9/11 Hero Mark Bingham

A Lesson for Carson Daly on 9/11 Hero Mark Bingham

WHAT ARE WE WAITING FOR - DANNY ROSE






The Most Amazing Song and Dance Gay Marriage Proposal You've Probably Ever Seen: VIDEO

Carson DalyGay People Wouldn't HaveStopped Crazy JetBlue Pilot

Carson DalyGay People Wouldn't HaveStopped Crazy JetBlue Pilot

Poll: Marylanders Virtually Tied On Same-Sex Marriage

Poll: Marylanders Virtually Tied On Same-Sex Marriage: Forty percent of Marylanders would vote to legalize same-sex marriage, while 43 percent would vote to make it illegal, a new statewide poll released today by OpinionWorks shows. The polling firm interviewed 601 randomly selected registered voters across the state of Maryland to respond to the same-sex marriage bill recently signed into law by Gov...

Internal Emails Confirm NOM’s Emphasis On Highlighting Anti-Equality African-Americans

Internal Emails Confirm NOM’s Emphasis On Highlighting Anti-Equality African-Americans: Last year, Louis J. Marinelli came out for marriage equality after being exposed to hundreds who protested the National Organization for Marriage, for which he worked. Since then, he has revealed many of the anti-gay group’s internal documents, and today he added some fuel to the fire created by the confidential memos released earlier this...

POLL: 73 Percent Of U.S. Voters Support LGBT Workplace Protections

POLL: 73 Percent Of U.S. Voters Support LGBT Workplace Protections: A new poll commissioned by the Human Rights Campaign finds that 73 percent of 2012 likely voters support President Obama signing an Executive Order that would ban anti-LGBT discrimination by federal contractors. Support for the protective order remained strong across various demographics, including age, race, education, and political ideology (see word cloud below). As a...

Harvard Student Reconciles Homosexuality And The Bible In Moving Lecture

Harvard Student Reconciles Homosexuality And The Bible In Moving Lecture: When Harvard student Matthew Vines came out as gay his sophomore year, he was “relieved and crushed” — crushed specifically because he worried he wouldn’t be welcome in his Kansas hometown. Not content to accept condemnation from his conservative Christianity, Vines took a leave of absence from college to thoroughly study the supposed conflict between homosexuality...

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Play The Victim To Justify Hiding Donors’ Identities

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Play The Victim To Justify Hiding Donors’ Identities: Despite all the disturbing race-wedging, parent-scaring, and dummy celebrity-co-opting found in the National Organization for Marriage’s confidential memos, it’s important to remember one other aspect of the anti-gay group’s sneaky tactics — the very tactic that failed and allowed these documents to see the light of day. In every one of its efforts, NOM intentionally avoids any action...

Defending Violence Against Women Act, Rep. Moore Recounts Being Raped As A Child

Defending Violence Against Women Act, Rep. Moore Recounts Being Raped As A Child: Rep. Gwen Moore (D-WI) shared today her powerful story of being sexually abused and raped as a child. In a speech on the floor of the House of Representatives, Rep. Moore told her colleagues about being date raped and having her underwear stolen as a trophy of the event. As one of the female legislators...

Benjamin Bull: Legal recognition of same-sex “marriage” diminishes, if not completely takes away, the religious liberty of those who have moral objections to such union.

Read more Bull here.

Family Research Council Prays Against 'Homosexual Tyranny'

Family Research Council Prays Against 'Homosexual Tyranny'

Barton: Intolerance of Gays is a Sign of Spiritual Revival

Cameron: 'Secular Totalitarianism' is 'The Greatest Threat We Face Today'

Cameron: 'Secular Totalitarianism' is 'The Greatest Threat We Face Today'

Traveling through Time with Kirk Cameron: Looking at America through a Religious Right Lens

Traveling through Time with Kirk Cameron: Looking at America through a Religious Right Lens

How Scott Lively Tried to Stop Soros-Funded 'Infiltrators' from 'Homosexualizing' Uganda

How Scott Lively Tried to Stop Soros-Funded 'Infiltrators' from 'Homosexualizing' Uganda

Sandy Rios: Trayvon Martin Controversy Threatens to Break the 'Truce' between Blacks and Whites

Sandy Rios: Trayvon Martin Controversy Threatens to Break the 'Truce' between Blacks and Whites

GOP Leaders Make Mockery Of ‘Religious Freedom’ By Appointing Commissioners Who Advocate Fear Of Others

GOP Leaders Make Mockery Of ‘Religious Freedom’ By Appointing Commissioners Who Advocate Fear Of Others: Yesterday, House Speaker John Boehner (R-OH) and Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-KY) each made appointments to the U.S. Commission on International Religious Freedom, and both chose candidates known for infringing upon others’ religious freedom and fostering hate against minorities. Boehner’s pick was Robert P. George, co-founder of the National Organization for Marriage, a group...

John Carroll: Dancing Saved Me From Humiliation of Bullies

John Carroll: Dancing Saved Me From Humiliation of Bullies

Albanian Official: Beat Gays with a Stick

Albanian Official: Beat Gays with a Stick

Ari Fleischer on marriage.mp4

Overt hate and deliberate mischaraterization of trans people

NOM’s gross race-baiting tactics

NOM’s gross race-baiting tactics  

Gay marriage foes sought to split gays, blacks

Gay marriage foes sought to split gays, blacks

Group sought wedge between blacks, gays to fight same-sex marriage

Group sought wedge between blacks, gays to fight same-sex marriage

NOM wanted pretty but dumb celebrities to help them spread their message

Anti-Gay activists looking for glamorous, unintelligent celebrities to advance their cause

Being grateful in a blue speedo.

Help is on the way, but will it be enough? March 26 Marriage News Watch

How NOM links gays to pedophilia while keeping its hands clean

How NOM links gays to pedophilia while keeping its hands clean

Chilean gay victim of neo-Nazi attack dies

Chilean gay victim of neo-Nazi attack dies

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Stephen Baldwin and Rosie Discuss Gay Rights - The Rosie Show - Oprah Wi...

Brian Brown's damage control.

Read the NOM Blog here.

Buzz Feed: In Secret Documents, Anti-Gay Marriage Group Looked To Divide Gays, Blacks

In Secret Documents, Anti-Gay Marriage Group Looked To Divide Gays, Blacks

The Atlantic Magazine: Anti-Gay Marriage Group's Leaked Docs Reveal Divide and Conquer Racial Plans

Anti-Gay Marriage Group's Leaked Docs Reveal Divide and Conquer Racial Plans

New York Magazine: National Organization for Marriage Plans to ‘Drive a Wedge Between Gays and Blacks’

National Organization for Marriage Plans to ‘Drive a Wedge Between Gays and Blacks’

Minnesota Homophobic Bigot Minute: Episode 13

Anti-Gay Marriage Group Recommends Creating Tension Between Gays and Blacks

Anti-Gay Marriage Group Recommends Creating Tension Between Gays and Blacks

MSNBC Covers NOM Scandal: Video

MSNBC Covers NOM Scandal   

Julian Bond at NAACP criticizes NOM plan for race war

Julian Bond at NAACP criticizes NOM plan for race war

Maggie Gallagher's flip response to the exposure of internal NOM documents that shed light on the depths of the organization's depravity.

Read Maggie Gallagher's respose here.

Calling All Black People: NOM Wants to Use You

Calling All Black People: NOM Wants to Use You

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Race-Wedging Black And Latino Voters Against Marriage Equality

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Race-Wedging Black And Latino Voters Against Marriage Equality: As reported earlier, newly obtained internal memos from 2009 document the National Organization for Marriage’s various insidious strategies to oppose marriage equality. This post takes a look at two key race-baiting strategies NOM has employed, one targeting African-Americans and one targeting Latinos. In both cases, the organization commited to “interrupting the race analogy:” Ultimately we...

Will Romney Denounce Ally’s Goal To ‘Drive A Wedge Between Gays And Blacks’?

Will Romney Denounce Ally’s Goal To ‘Drive A Wedge Between Gays And Blacks’?: Our guest blogger is Elon Green, a freelance writer living in Brooklyn. Last night, the Human Rights Campaign published National Organization for Marriage memos that, as Zack Ford put it, “explicitly confirm many of the insidious tactics LGBT bloggers have been documenting for years.” We now know, for example, that NOM set out to “[d]rive...

NOM Doubles Down On Race-Wedging And Confirms Its Use

NOM Doubles Down On Race-Wedging And Confirms Its Use: The National Organization for Marriage’s confidential 2009 memos released last night have created quite a stir for the blatant way they sought to divide racial communities over the issue of same-sex marriage. Now, NOM President Brian Brown has responded to the controversy by invoking the exact same race-wedging strategy outlined in the documents: BROWN: The National...

Gay And Lesbian Cadets Find Acceptance In Wake Of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal

Gay And Lesbian Cadets Find Acceptance In Wake Of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal: Since the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, cadets in uniform at Norwich University, the nation’s oldest private military academy, “participated Monday in sessions about handling bullying and harassment as part of the school’s first gay pride week,” the Associated Press reports. The event — the first of its kind since Congress lifted its ban...

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Scare Parents With Threats To ‘Childhood Innocence’

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Scare Parents With Threats To ‘Childhood Innocence’: It’s no secret that anti-gay groups have primarily targeted children in their campaigns, whether through overt accusations that homosexuals recruit and molest kids to the more recent and more subtle threat that young people might actually be “taught homosexuality” in schools. The intended audience for all of these messages is parents, as the National Organization...

NC House Speaker: Amendment One ‘Will Be Repealed Within 20 Years’

NC House Speaker: Amendment One ‘Will Be Repealed Within 20 Years’: When North Carolinians head to the polls on May 8, one of the issues they will vote on is Amendment One, a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage, civil unions, and domestic partnerships. (The state already has a law making same-sex marriage illegal.) Polls have sometimes split on the issue, but one released earlier this week...

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Use Rick Santorum As A Spokesman For Inequality

Inside NOM’s Strategy: Use Rick Santorum As A Spokesman For Inequality: The newly released confidential documents from the National Organization for Marriage offer vast insights into the inner workings of the anti-gay group, at least as of 2009. While the race-wedging and parent-scaring tactics have gotten the most press attention, the memos also reveal an official partnership between NOM and Rick Santorum to campaign for maintaining the...

Why Conservatives Will Lose the Culture War, The Conservative Teen Edition

Why Conservatives Will Lose the Culture War, The Conservative Teen Edition: The latest exhibit in the desperate squareness of right-wing cultural production is The Conservative Teen, a magazine clearly designed more for parents who want to hold back the tide on their children’s inevitably progressing adolescence than for children themselves. Everything about it is wrong, from the weird interstitial definitions of terms like “cameo” and “eugenics...

Women and children first, Christianist view of the legacy of the Titanic.

Read more here.

Kirk Cameron’s Monumental Revision of Thomas Jefferson

Kirk Cameron’s Monumental Revision of Thomas Jefferson

Latest #glaadcap critic: 'Has Satan finally overtaken their twisted souls?'

Latest #glaadcap critic: 'Has Satan finally overtaken their twisted souls?'

Anti-Equality Documents Expose NOM’s Cynical Wedge Strategy

Anti-Equality Documents Expose NOM’s Cynical Wedge Strategy

Dick Morris warns that President Obama is turning into a dictator who will re-institute the draft in order to use the military to take over and nationalize the oil industry!

Obama Assumes Dictatorial Powers – Dick Morris TV: Lunch Alert!

NOM's Real Values

NOM's Real Values

Barton: One More Bombing Run Would Have Won The Vietnam War

Barton: Everything Biblical is Treated like it is Evil

Barton: Everything Biblical is Treated like it is Evil

Lapin on Making Money, Saving Civilization

Robertson: Satan Behind Homosexuality, Abortion Rights

Did NOM Hire Someone to Unsuccessfully Find ‘Victims’ of Gay Parents?

Did NOM Hire Someone to Unsuccessfully Find ‘Victims’ of Gay Parents?

TBN Lawsuit Alleges Cover-Up of Sexual and Criminal Scandals – Paul, Jan and Matt Crouch Implicated

TBN Lawsuit Alleges Cover-Up of Sexual and Criminal Scandals – Paul, Jan and Matt Crouch Implicated

Fischer: The Constitution and Declaration are Covenants with God

Waiting For The Inevitable

Under The Volcano (1984) is based on the highly acclaimed novel of the same name by Malcolm Lowry. Albert Finney played the lead character Geoffrey Firmin. Geoffrey was a man of some means who used to have a successful career as an English diplomat. He was once close to his half-brother Hugh, played by Anthony Andrews. And he used to be married to a beautiful woman named Yvonne, played by Jacqueline Bisset.

When the story opens, we find Geoffrey living in a small village in Mexico on the eve of WWII. He had been working there as a diplomat, but he quit. Geoffrey is aware that the world is about to be plunged into chaos despite all the best efforts of people such as himself, so he has given up. The turmoil that looms over Europe, much like the volcano that looms over the village, reflects the turmoil in Geoffrey’s personal life. At some point in the recent past, Geoffrey discovered that his wife Yvonne and his half-brother Hugh were having an affair, and although it seems to have only been short-lived and that Yvonne and Geoffrey were truly in love, Geoffrey couldn’t bring himself to forgive them, so he and Yvonne divorced, and Hugh went off to fight the Fascists in Spain. But Hugh returns, followed by Yvonne as the Mexican villagers celebrate the Day of the Dead. There seems to be a chance for the three to make peace with what happened and to become a family again, but even though Geoffrey wants this more than anything, he has lost his faith and he has become a hopeless alcoholic. Geoffrey no longer believes in happy endings. He no longer believes that hard work or the best intentions pay off. Geoffrey has come to believe that we all live under the volcano and it’s only a matter of time before we’ll be destroyed. So he drinks himself into a stupor, behaves erratically, and at the end of the film, he is killed by thuggish Nazi sympathizers.

While watching this film, I couldn’t help but think of Trayvon Marin, the young man who was gunned down in the streets while walking home after buying himself a treat at a local store. He was shot by a paranoid lunatic whom our society believes has a right to not only own a gun but to carry it around. And the state of Florida has seen fit to provide such paranoid lunatics with a law that protects them from prosecution when they kill with their guns if they merely feel threatened.

I also thought of the story I read recently about a man who grew up in Morocco. He was an effeminate boy, and because of this, the men who knew him felt it was their right to rape him once he reached puberty. Not even his family was willing to stand up for him. And I’m sure the men rationalized their actions by telling themselves that if the boy didn’t want it, he wouldn’t have been effeminate. Morocco is the country where Matthew Sheppard was gang rapped when he visited the country as a teenager. How can the idea that it’s okay to rape small, effeminate teenage boys get passed down in a society from one generation to the next without that idea being challenged? How can these men who brutalize these boys not realize that what they’re doing is wrong?

As much as I want to believe that people are basically good and that life is beautiful, I often find myself sympathizing with Geoffrey’s point of view. We can put forth our best diplomatic efforts, as Geoffrey did before he gave up, and maybe we’ll see some positive change here and there, but it’s like trying to hold back the flow of lava with a soup ladle. With every small victory comes the news chaos and destruction have popped up somewhere else.

I suppose that despite this, one can try to live as if all is not lost. And maybe this can give a person’s life meaning and purpose. Most of the time I manage to believe this on some level, but like Geoffrey, I often find myself in full retreat, too. I may not be a drunkard, and it’s not like me to go out in the world and pick fights with thugs, but I do hide in my little cave, and at least once a day I find myself waiting for the inevitable.


Under The Volcano trailer





Freedom To Marry: NOM Is Despicable

Freedom To Marry: NOM Is Despicable

A heretofore secret document reveals NOM intended to "drive a wedge between gays and blacks."

Previously Confidential Documents Shed Light on NOM Strategy

Monumental is full on Dominionist nonsense

DOJ Seeks Quick Court Action Against DOMA, As Health Benefits Begin for Karen Golinski's Wife

DOJ Seeks Quick Court Action Against DOMA, As Health Benefits Begin for Karen Golinski's Wife

Trojan Condoms Unrolled

Top 10 Highlights From NOM’s Race-Wedging, Donor-Hiding, Victim-Playing Confidential Strategies

Top 10 Highlights From NOM’s Race-Wedging, Donor-Hiding, Victim-Playing Confidential Strategies: The fallout has begun from the National Organization for Marriage’s failed attempt to circumvent Maine’s campaign finance disclosure laws. The Human Rights Campaign has published four of NOM’s confidential strategic memos from 2009, which explicitly confirm many of the insidious tactics LGBT bloggers have been documenting for years. Most alarming from the memos is NOM’s...

Megan Hilty, Ted Allen, and ABC journalist Josh Elliott at the GLAAD Med...

“Bully” movie will be “unrated” after 475,000 petition MPAA to overturn “R” rating

“Bully” movie will be “unrated” after 475,000 petition MPAA to overturn “R” rating

Monday, March 26, 2012

Anoka-Hennepin School District Rebuffs Conservative Group’s Requests

Anoka-Hennepin School District Rebuffs Conservative Group’s Requests: The Anoka-Hennepin School District in Minnesota is in the process of overhauling its bullying policies after a Department of Justice investigation found that it had allowed anti-LGBT harassment to persist. Despite the model plan the district has agreed to implement, it still faces the demands made by the newly anointed conservative hate group the Parents...

Zach Wahls presents at the GLAAD Media Awards

Starbucks Boycott Over Marriage Equality Spurs Tenfold Backlash

Starbucks Boycott Over Marriage Equality Spurs Tenfold Backlash: The National Organization for Marriage’s decision to boycott Starbucks for the company’s support of the freedom to marry has turned out to be a dismal failure. In the five days since NOM launched its “Dump Starbucks” petition, it has only gotten 19,000 signatures, compared to the nearly 250,000 individuals who have signed SumOfUs’s retaliatory “Thank...

U.S. Customs Will Recognize Same-Sex Families At Borders

U.S. Customs Will Recognize Same-Sex Families At Borders: The Department of Homeland Security announced today that same-sex families will soon be able to cross the border together, filing just one form for all “members of a family residing in one household.” Before, married same-sex couples had to go through customs separately because the policy referred to married couples, and thus fell under the...

ABC News / What Would You Do?: Bridal Shop Won't Sell Dress to Lesbian

NOM: Opposing Gay Rights Doesn’t Make Someone Anti-Gay

NOM: Opposing Gay Rights Doesn’t Make Someone Anti-Gay: Jennifer Roback Morse of the National Organization for Marriage’s Ruth Institute is the latest conservative to object to GLAAD’s Commentator Accountability Project for raising media awareness that her views are anti-gay. Jeremy Hooper has already documented everything she gets wrong about the actual campaign, but at the core of her argument is the claim that...

Supreme Court Allows Ruling Against Wisconsin Anti-Trans Law To Stand

Supreme Court Allows Ruling Against Wisconsin Anti-Trans Law To Stand: In 2005, Wisconsin passed a law banning transgender prisoners from receiving medical treatment related to their transgender identity. Lambda Legal filed suit against the state on behalf of several women who suffered harm after their care was cut off, winning at both the district and appellate levels. Now, the U.S. Supreme Court has decided not to hear...

Getting Jefferson Right: Fact Checking Claims About Our Third President

Getting Jefferson Right: Fact Checking Claims About Our Third President

Retired 3-star general apologist for stupidity, claims women’s groups, gay lobby ‘apologists for the Muslim Brotherhood’

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Tony Perkins loves Kirk Cameron, thinks his new movie Monumental will save America

Read Perkins' comments here.

Mat Staver Accuses Obama of Backing 'Forced Abortion Funding' and 'Forced Homosexuality'

Mat Staver Accuses Obama of Backing 'Forced Abortion Funding' and 'Forced Homosexuality'

David Barton Twists the Facts, Claims Secular Law Leads to Sharia

David Barton Twists the Facts, Claims Secular Law Leads to Sharia

Focus on the Family Warns of Day of Silence 'Indoctrination,' 'Promoting Homosexuality and Transgenderism'

Focus on the Family Warns of Day of Silence 'Indoctrination,' 'Promoting Homosexuality and Transgenderism'

Robertson: "Demonic Possession" Behind Homosexuality

200 Gays And Lesbians Marry In Ohio Mass Wedding

200 Gays And Lesbians Marry In Ohio Mass Wedding: More than 200 gay and lesbian couples held a mass wedding at the Cleveland City Hall in Ohio on Sunday to protest the state’s constitutional ban against same-sex marriage. An effort is currently underway to change the law through referendum. “[E]ven though in the eyes of the state this isn’t legal, to us, this is...

Proving you're gay to the Turkish army

Proving you're gay to the Turkish army

"Join the Party!"

Obama Adviser Won’t Say If President Supports Including Marriage Equality In Party Platform

Obama Adviser Won’t Say If President Supports Including Marriage Equality In Party Platform: During an interview with ABC’s This Week on Sunday, Senior Obama adviser David Plouffe wouldn’t say if the president supports including marriage equality in the Democratic Party’s 2012 platform. “We’re going to work through the platform process,” Plouffe offered, before contrasting Obama’s achievements for the LGBT community with the GOP’s efforts to malign it: PLOUFFE...

Mickey Rourke pulls out of Gareth Thomas biopic

Mickey Rourke pulls out of Gareth Thomas biopic

Report from U.K.: 300,000 oppose gay marriage in biggest petition since election

300,000 oppose gay marriage in biggest petition since election

Midstate faith groups tout LGBT acceptance

Midstate faith groups tout LGBT acceptance

N.J. Catholic high school cancels production of ‘The Laramie Project’

N.J. Catholic high school cancels production of ‘The Laramie Project’

Williams Institute Scholar Ilan Meyer Explains the Painful Impact of Workplace Discrimination

Williams Institute Scholar Ilan Meyer Explains the Painful Impact of Workplace Discrimination

At Gridiron Dinner, Rick Perry Pokes Fun at Santorum, Romney and Himself

At Gridiron Dinner, Rick Perry Pokes Fun at Santorum, Romney and Himself

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But, he noted, he stumbled soon enough. “Here’s the hardest part for me,” he said. “Weakest Republican field in history and they kicked my butt.” He suggested part of his problem may have been that he has a college degree in animal husbandry. “Animal husbandry,” he deadpanned. “That sounds like what Rick Santorum thinks gay marriage leads to.”

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Video: French footballers’ ‘kiss’ goes viral and sparks new discussion about homophobia on the pitch

Video: French footballers’ ‘kiss’ goes viral and sparks new discussion about homophobia on the pitch

Sunday, March 25, 2012

A Boy to Be Sacrificed

A Boy to Be Sacrificed

IN the Morocco of the 1980s, where homosexuality did not, of course, exist, I was an effeminate little boy, a boy to be sacrificed, a humiliated body who bore upon himself every hypocrisy, everything left unsaid. By the time I was 10, though no one spoke of it, I knew what happened to boys like me in our impoverished society; they were designated victims, to be used, with everyone’s blessing, as easy sexual objects by frustrated men. And I knew that no one would save me — not even my parents, who surely loved me. For them too, I was shame, filth. A “zamel.”       

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The Metamorphosis - A Study: Nabokov on Kafka (1989) Christopher Plummer

Gay and lesbian couples celebrate at mass 'wedding' at Cleveland's Galleria

Gay and lesbian couples celebrate at mass 'wedding' at Cleveland's Galleria

Seven Thunders

Santorum Wins Louisiana Primary

Santorum Wins Louisiana Primary

Rick Santorum put out a new ad in which he suggests a second Obama term would be like a horror movie. What he doesn't say is that if he were ever elected president, America would devolve into The Republic Of Gilead.



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Santorumville

A Monumentally Different Kirk Cameron

A Monumentally Different Kirk Cameron


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With a new film Monumental about to be released, there is a new, more extreme Cameron who is increasingly connected to Christian Reconstruction and dominion theology.

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Saturday, March 24, 2012

Sniffing The Glue Of Bigotry

Human beings have a great capacity for love and compassion, and they also have a great capacity for egotism. Most of us are guilty of wanting to believe that we’re better than others in some way from time to time--smarter, more attractive, richer, more charming, funnier, more influential, cooler, better educated, more moral… There seems to be only a hair’s breadth between having a healthy self-esteem and being arrogant. When it comes to maligned minorities--the poor, those who aren’t white, women, those considered less attractive, LGBTs, etc.--there are a host of hostile clichés ready to be pulled off the shelf and hurled at a convenient victim if a person is in the mood to feel superior. Bigotry is a bad habit. It gives you a momentary high, but you have to cut yourself off from your natural love and compassion for the person or people you’re attacking.

For many, simply getting to know a few LGBT people is enough. The love and compassion for the real people they know overtakes those hostile clichés for a nameless, faceless mass of homos. For others, just a little bit of common sense and logic will do. But there are some who are going to fight like hell to hold onto their bigotry because they have grown addicted to sniffing that glue. They feel superior, and they want to go on feeling superior. NOM is so driven by bigotry that they have actually made this one of their talking points. They actually think this is a valid and persuasive argument. “We can’t let LGBT people win, because if they won, we would lose, and, as a result, some might think of us as bigots.”

Miss Universe Canada Ejects Transgender Contestant

Miss Universe Canada Ejects Transgender Contestant

Can you feel the love?

Porno Pete: People Are Mean To Me!

Porno Pete: People Are Mean To Me!

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Reminds me of what Warren Throckmorton said to Scott Lively recently: if you don't want to fight, don't start one.
   

How George Takei Conquered Facebook

How George Takei Conquered Facebook

Houston Mayor Would Be ‘Shocked’ If Obama Supported Marriage Equality In 2012

Houston Mayor Would Be ‘Shocked’ If Obama Supported Marriage Equality In 2012: At a convening of LGBT journalists in Houston Friday evening, Mayor Annise Parker, who is openly lesbian, fielded questions about the role marriage equality in the 2012 election. She said that “it’s important to have the debate” in the Democratic Party, so long as it doesn’t cause division and take away from re-electing President Obama...

Madonna challenges new Russian law

Mark Foley's Longtime Partner Dies: Report

Mark Foley's Longtime Partner Dies: Report        

Two gays arrested in Dominica for buggery

US man arrested on gay Caribbean cruise says he and partner taunted, humiliated in Dominica

US man arrested on gay Caribbean cruise says he and partner taunted, humiliated in Dominica



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When I first heard about this story I was concerned that the men might have been arrested on trumped-up charges. But I’ll admit that when I read the account from the cruise line, I assumed that the men were guilty of having sex on their balcony. I didn’t have any hostility toward them. I thought that maybe it had just been a thrill for them to have sex on the balcony. And since they were apparently safe after spending only one night in jail and paying a moderate fine, I thought the whole thing was much ado about nothing.
But after reading the statement from these men, I realized that I wasn’t there, I don’t know what happened, and their story is at least plausible. Maybe it was simply a matter of one or both of them exposing too much flesh on the balcony, and maybe that got the accusations of sex on the balcony started.
I think it’s important to keep in mind that the balcony in question was attached to their room. No, it is not private in the sense that no one can see onto the balcony while the ship is docked. But the men were invited to think of it as their own while they were onboard the ship. It was just a few feet away from their bed and bathroom, places were they undoubtedly felt free to be undressed. And a cruise ship is like a floating hotel, and part of the time the balcony would face open sea. It would be easy enough to step through that door onto the balcony in some state of undress to get a breath of fresh air or to check the weather and temperature without giving much thought you might offend someone if they saw your penis or butt. It would be easy enough to forget that merely seeing two gay men in some state of undress would be enough to start rumors of public sex.


Friday, March 23, 2012

Kurt Cobain Made It OK for Gay Musicians

Kurt Cobain Made It OK for Gay Musicians

People Rally to Starbucks' Defense After NOM Boycott

People Rally to Starbucks' Defense After NOM Boycott

Gay Mormon Man’s Suicide Points Up Tensions

Gay Mormon Man’s Suicide Points Up Tensions

Eric Giray sues bully 8 years later

Eric Giray sues bully 8 years later.

TN science bill protects teachers who allow debate over evolution

TN science bill protects teachers who allow debate over evolution

Maggie Gallagher is having a duck fit because Starbucks supports marriage equality.

Read her comments here.

Saint Petersburg Official: Madonna Will Be Punished If She Violates Anti-Gay Law

Saint Petersburg Official: Madonna Will Be Punished If She Violates Anti-Gay Law: International pop icon Madonna could face a fine of 5,000 rubles (roughly $170) for spreading “homosexual propaganda among minors” if she follows through with her vow to publicly denounce the newly enacted “gay propaganda” ban in St. Petersburg, Russia, at upcoming performance. “If Madonna or one of the organizers of the concert breaks the city...

Colorado To Consider Repealing Unconstitutional Anti-Gay Amendment 2

Colorado To Consider Repealing Unconstitutional Anti-Gay Amendment 2: It has been 20 years since Colorado passed Amendment 2, forbidding the protection of gays and lesbians from workplace discrimination, and 16 years since the U.S. Supreme Court ruled it was unconstitutional, but it is currently still in the Colorado Constitution. State lawmakers Sen. Pat Steadman (D) and Rep. Mark Ferrandino (D), both of whom...

Methodists In Oklahoma Call For Marriage Equality

Methodists In Oklahoma Call For Marriage Equality: A group of United Methodists in Oklahoma “are signing a statement in support of marriage equality ahead of an April global policy conference of the church, which prohibits gay marriage.” So far, 62 clergy and 203 members have endorsed the call for “full equality and inclusion to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in the...

DADT in song

Liberia’s President Sirleaf Defends Controversial Stance On Gay Rights

Liberia’s President Sirleaf Defends Controversial Stance On Gay Rights: Nobel Peace Laureate and Liberian President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf is standing by her country’s anti-gay policies amid controversy stemming from a joint interview with former Prime Minister Tony Blair. In a letter to the Guardian, the Liberian government claims that there are currently no anti-gay laws in practice within the country, although voluntary sodomy is...

Teen Hospitalized After Attempting Suicide Over Anti-Gay Bullying

Teen Hospitalized After Attempting Suicide Over Anti-Gay Bullying: Andy Towle flags the story of Austin Rodriguez, “a gay teen at Wellsville High School in Ohio who came out of the closet 6-8 months ago and immediately faced bullying from fellow students.” Rodriguez attempted suicide last Friday by swallowing pills, and now remains on a ventilator in the hospital. His mother says that the...

Fox’s Geraldo Rivera Blames Hoodie For Trayvon Martin’s Death

Fox’s Geraldo Rivera Blames Hoodie For Trayvon Martin’s Death: As ThinkProgress noted, Fox News ignored the controversy over the killing of Trayvon Martin at first, even after every other network was covering it, but maybe they were better off not covering the issue than what they’re doing now. This morning on Fox and Frends, Fox contributor Geraldo Rivera remarked, “I think the hoodie is...

Poll: 58 Percent of North Carolinians Support Marriage Inequality Amendment

Poll: 58 Percent of North Carolinians Support Marriage Inequality Amendment: Fifty-eight percent of likely voters are suppportive of Amendment One — a proposed amendment that would ban same-sex marriage in the North Carolina constitution — according to a SurveyUSA poll relased Wednesday. The poll, which was commissioned by WRAL News, interviewed 1,001 North Carolinians and found that 36 percent of respondents opposed the law, while...

Kirk Cameron Warns 'The Anti-Christian Agenda' Wants People to think they are 'An Evolved Amoeba'

Kirk Cameron Warns 'The Anti-Christian Agenda' Wants People to think they are 'An Evolved Amoeba'

Movieguide Warns 'The Hunger Games' Will Lead to an American Hitler, Has 'Homosexual and Cross-Dressing Implications'

Movieguide Warns 'The Hunger Games' Will Lead to an American Hitler, Has 'Homosexual and Cross-Dressing Implications'

Gingrich: Media Cover-up of "Obama's Muslim Friends"

My Dog Had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

We had a little dog named Bozo when I was a kid. He was a small mutt with short, light brown fur and a fan tail. He wasn’t tiny. I don’t remember picking him up and carrying him around as I did our cat, but he wasn’t very big. Bozo was a friendly, happy dog for the most part, and I loved him. But sudden, loud noises terrified Bozo--a rifle blast, a clap of thunder. One 4th of July when I was 9 or 10, I was out in the backyard with Bozo. I was sitting on the ground Indian style, and I was petting and loving on him while he graciously accepted my attention. Out of the blue, I heard a loud pop. It turned out my father and sister decided to let off a few firecrackers in the front yard. The sound, of course, startled Bozo, and his reaction was typically extreme. He didn’t just jump, he leapt into the air. It seems he meant to fly over top of me in his intense desire to get away, but he didn’t quite make it. He ended up headbutting me. That little dog nearly knocked me out cold. Almost 40 years have passed, and I can still feel the impact of his forehead bashing against mine. It was intensely painful, and I fell backwards. Bozo was long gone by the time I stopped writhing in pain and figured out what had happened. He was such a gentle little dog, but he had to get away from that sound even if it meant killing me. The following New Year’s Eve, Bozo ran away when everyone started letting off their fireworks at the stroke of midnight, and we never saw him again. We looked for him, and we told everyone that he was missing, but it was as if he had vanished. Maybe in his terror, he ran so far away from home that he got lost. Maybe he lived as a stray for a few years after that. Maybe another family adopted him. Maybe he ran out in front of a car and got run over. I suppose I’ll never know what exactly happened to him, but I greatly missed him for a long time. Now and then I used to dream of him returning home. I continued to have that dream occasionally until I was in my twenties.

Dogs like Bozo are said to be gun-shy. I don’t know what caused Bozo to be this way. Was it just in his nature? Or was he exposed to a loud blast when he was a pup? I can’t say, but even as a kid, I realized that Bozo couldn’t help it. I readily forgave him when he almost murdered me and when he ran away and broke my heart. He was easily scared and this made him act out in irrational ways. Human beings can be like that, too, of course, except we don’t usually use the term “gun-shy” when talking about humans. There was a time when the term “shell shocked” was common. And that was followed by “battle fatigue.” I like “shell shocked” because it’s descriptive like “gun-shy” but more visceral. You can feel something of the torment of the person who suffers from shell shock just by using the term. But I suppose it was inevitable that we would settle on something much more clinical like "post traumatic stress disorder" because human beings aren’t just traumatized by loud sounds, and it’s not only the stress of war that can cause the condition.

Maybe I understood Bozo so well because on some level I related to him. I, too, was shell shocked. Loud noises didn’t unduly frighten me, but I was generally nervous and lived in a state of near panic a good deal of the time. When I was young, people said I was shy. I was scared, confused, quiet and withdrawn. Most of the time, people ignored me, but once in a while someone would became curious and ask me what I liked. I couldn’t answer. Not only did I avoid talking to people, but my inner dialogue was also stunted in a way. Looking back on it, I realize that I liked a great many things, my dog for instance, and animals in general. I loved movies. I had a love for houses, especially old, grand houses. I loved paintings and photographs. And I loved camping and being in the woods. But I couldn’t talk about these things. Not only was I reluctant to reveal myself, I didn’t even know how to put my feelings and thoughts into words. Sometimes I felt like I might be missing something crucial. I worried that I was boring, dull, that I had nothing to share. But now I realize I just hadn’t found my voice, and that’s probably because I was terrified of using it.

My parents were good people, but they lacked the skills to nurture someone like me, and they were so caught up in their own problems that they didn’t have it in them to focus on mine. My mother was seriously mentally ill, and my father lived in denial. This undoubtedly exacerbated my condition. One of the reasons I felt unsafe was because I didn’t know what to expect from my parents, and they didn’t spend a lot of time comforting or encouraging me. But there is another reason that shouldn’t be downplayed. From a very early age, I recognized I was different from most boys. And I realized that this difference wasn’t appreciated or understood by other kids or adults. So I retreated into myself. Maybe I overreacted. But like Bozo, I just can’t help it. I have spent my life trying to find someplace safe, even at the expense of forming lasting relationships and finding a home.

I’m not sure I’ll ever find that sense of safety and security that I desperately want. I don’t know if I’ll ever have a family or a place that is truly mine. Maybe at this point, I should resign myself to being a stray because as much as I want to be loved and petted, my instincts tell me not to let anyone get too close, and my instincts always win.

I hope that it will one day get better for kids who are different. I don’t want them growing up so afraid of their own voice they’re middle aged before they find it. I don’t want them so frightened of rejection that they try to be invisible. I want it generally acknowledged that some boys don’t like baseball and some girls don’t like Barbie dolls, and I want that to be okay. I want it to be okay that some girls have crushes on other girls and some boys have crushes on other boys. I get so sick and tired of hearing how trying to bring about this change is an attack on the religious liberty of Christians. We live in a world of diversity. If some think gender nonconformity and homosexuality are wrong, so what? LGBT kids are real. They exist. And they deserve to grow up feeling wanted and safe.

I also want those kids to grow up knowing that they can get married and start a family with someone they love. I want them to have that option, that dream. I want them to be able to sit in their bedrooms some rainy Saturday afternoon when they’re twelve or thirteen and think about one day having someone to come home to and kids who will ask them for the latest gadget or toy.

But of course some don’t want them to have that dream. Some want kids like the kind of kid I was to continue growing up believing that the best they can hope for is to survive in the shadows, out of sight of “real” people. They don’t want them imagining bringing their husbands and wives home for Thanksgiving dinner. They don’t want them to imagine telling the kids at school about their boyfriends or girlfriends. They don’t want them to imagine telling their friends and parents what’s in their hearts. They want them to continue to be shell shocked, afraid, ashamed.

I can only imagine what life would be like for me now if I had grown up in a nurturing environment, if I had felt wanted and protected, if I hadn’t felt the need to hide. What if my mother hadn’t held up the old purse I adopted at Sunday school when I was four or five and told everyone to look at my purse just so all the kids would laugh, and I would realize that boys aren’t supposed to carry purses? What if teachers had told me that it was okay for me to play with the girls when they saw I was intimidated by the boys? What if someone had told me that it’s okay if I didn’t like baseball, basketball or football? What if my father had shown compassion and understanding rather than scorn and disgust when he caught me naked with another boy when I was twelve? What if I had felt confident enough to tell the young man I fell for in college that I loved him?

It’s such a simple thing, accepting someone as they are.  It’s hard for me to believe that, knowing there are LGBT kids out there, some want them to continue to feel like outcasts. But there are people like that. And they offer the dumbest excuses for their unkindness. One of the dumbest is the idea that same-sex relationships can’t be held up as equal to opposite-sex relationships because straight people would no longer take commitment and marriage seriously. I just don’t believe that straight people are generally so shallow that they would stop loving their spouses and children just because they know some gay couple out there might be happily married. If someone like Brian Brown really has this problem, then he should deal with it the best way he knows how. I don’t think we should sacrifice the millions of LGBT kids in this country just because the Brian Browns of the world are insecure about their own ability and/or the ability of other straight people to remain faithful.

Another dumb reason to continue to deny LGBT kids, perhaps the dumbest of them all, is the idea that we can’t let LGBTs have equal rights because if we did, those who hold them in contempt for supposedly religious reasons would be thought of as bigots. Well, if you want to believe you’re better than someone else, and if you want to deny them basic human rights, then you are a bigot. It doesn’t matter if you’re thought of as one or not. That’s what you are.

I hope that by the time I close my eyes on this world things will be different.

Gays not allowed to adopt in Northern Ireland.

Gays not allowed to adopt in Northern Ireland.

Special Report: KONY 2012 Stealth Evangelism Exposed

Special Report: KONY 2012 Stealth Evangelism Exposed

St. Petersburg Crackdown on Homosexuals Makes Putin G-8’s Pariah

St. Petersburg Crackdown on Homosexuals Makes Putin G-8’s Pariah

Wingnut website World Net Daily commissioned a poll which they claim links a growing acceptance for polygamy with marriage equality

Read more at WND.

What It's Like To Start A Gay-Straight Alliance In The South

What It's Like To Start A Gay-Straight Alliance In The South

New survey reveals sexual discrimination | Anchorage Daily News - The News Tribune

New survey reveals sexual discrimination | Anchorage Daily News - The News Tribune

New Hampshire’s Republican Gubernatorial Candidates Show Little Enthusiasm For Repealing Marriage Equality

New Hampshire’s Republican Gubernatorial Candidates Show Little Enthusiasm For Repealing Marriage Equality: Earlier this week, as Republicans in New Hampshire defeated a proposal to repeal the state’s same-sex marriage law, opponents of marriage equality insisted that they would reintroduce the measure and resurrect the issue in the gubernatorial election this November. But lawmakers have little enthusiasm for revisiting the issue and, given the public’s support for the...