Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Openly gay Democrat state Rep. Matt Heinz announced today he’s in the race to complete Gabrielle Giffords' term.

Democrat Enters Congressional District 8 Race

Hmm I wonder how Porno Pete would know who "gave" us these sex acts.

















From Shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew:
Petruchio (male character) to Katherine (female character):
What, with my tongue in your tail?

6 Former NJ Governors Support Gay Marriage

6 Former NJ Governors Support Gay Marriage

Chris Gregoire, Washington State Governor, Discusses Gay Marriage, Chris Christie, And More

Chris Gregoire, Washington State Governor, Discusses Gay Marriage, Chris Christie, And More

Outing dead Hollywood stars

Romney Reminds Faith Leaders of His Antigay Intentions

Romney Reminds Faith Leaders of His Antigay Intentions

Washington State Senator Confident Marriage Equality Will Pass

Washington State Senator Confident Marriage Equality Will Pass

Group Seeks Repeal of Kansas Sodomy Law

Group Seeks Repeal of Kansas Sodomy Law

Congressman John Lewis Denounces Christie Referendum Proposal

Congressman John Lewis Denounces Christie Referendum Proposal

Pastor Demands Boycott of Starbucks Because 'Starbucks Hates God'

Pastor Demands Boycott of Starbucks Because 'Starbucks Hates God '

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Here's a look at Pastor Steven Andrew.  Closet case?


Maryland anti marriage rally

Washington House Committee Advances Marriage Equality

Washington House Committee Advances Marriage Equality: The Washington House Judiciary Committee advanced the marriage equality bill yesterday in a 7-6 vote along party lines. Republicans introduced three different amendments to further expand “religious exemptions,” which would have expanded opportunities to discriminate against same-sex couples, but all were rejected. The full Senate is expected to vote on the bill sometime tomorrow, but...

LGBT Activists In UAE Cite Hillary Clinton’s Historic Equality Address In Fight Against Ex-Gay Therapy

LGBT Activists In UAE Cite Hillary Clinton’s Historic Equality Address In Fight Against Ex-Gay Therapy: LGBT activists in the United Arab Emirates are fighting back against the country’s reliance on ex-gay therapy and hormonal treatments to “cure” homosexuals with Secretary of State Hillary Clinton’s call for nations around the world to treat gay rights as human rights. The latest ex-gay push in the UAE appeared in the form of a...

Pentagon Sexual Assault Policy Disregards Same-Sex Couples

Pentagon Sexual Assault Policy Disregards Same-Sex Couples: The Defense Department’s new Sexual Assault Prevention and Response limits eligibility for protections under the policy to “military dependents,” which includes only federally recognized spouses. The Servicemembers Legal Defense Network’s Aubrey Sarvis has written a letter to Defense Secretary Leon Panetta saying that he is “troubled” that this disqualifies same-sex couples under the Defense of...

New Hampshire Governor Pledges To Veto Repeal Of Same-Sex Marriage In State Address

New Hampshire Governor Pledges To Veto Repeal Of Same-Sex Marriage In State Address: New Hampshire Gov. John Lynch (D) spoke out against the GOP’s effort to repeal the state’s same-sex marriage law in his State of the State address this afternoon and promised to veto any bill that strips residents of their “civil rights”: LYNCH: New Hampshire has a long and proud tradition of fighting for the rights...

Maryland House Speaker: Marriage Equality Is ‘An Issue Of Civil Rights’

Maryland House Speaker: Marriage Equality Is ‘An Issue Of Civil Rights’: Maryland House Speaker Michael Busch (D) doubled down on his support for marriage equality this morning, just as Gov. Martin O’Malley (D) prepares to testify about his same-sex marriage bill before the Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee. Speaking before a group of clergy, Busch called same-sex marriage “clearly an issue of civil rights” and said that...

NOM’s Rebuke Of Starbucks Over Marriage Equality Is Blatant Hypocrisy

NOM’s Rebuke Of Starbucks Over Marriage Equality Is Blatant Hypocrisy: The National Organization for Marriage does not stand on any set of principles, but is guided solely by what it thinks will help defeat marriage equality for same-sex couples. In Washington, for example, NOM’s Brian Brown came out swinging against Starbucks for supporting the same-sex marriage bill: BROWN: Americans should be able to drink a peaceful...

Maryland’s Same-Sex Marriage Bill Strikes Important Balance On Religious Conscience Protections

Maryland’s Same-Sex Marriage Bill Strikes Important Balance On Religious Conscience Protections: Maryland Senator Jamie Raskin (D) highlighted the additional conscience protections included in Gov. Martin O’Malley’s (D) same-sex marriage bill while testifying before the Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee this afternoon. “The challenge with this legislation is to reconcile our fundamental values of equal rights for all people with religious pluralism and toleration,” Raskin explained, noting that...

Maryland Senator Exposes Opponent Of Marriage Equality

Maryland Senator Exposes Opponent Of Marriage Equality: Maryland Senator Jamie Raskin (D) tore into Brian Raum of the Alliance Defense Fund for suggesting that private individuals and businesses who object to same sex-marriage should be allowed to discriminate against same-sex couples during a Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee hearing this afternoon. In a two-and-a-half minute exchange, Raskin forced Raum to concede that hotels...

Gingrich Warns that 'Elites' are Pushing America into 'Paganism'

Gingrich Warns that 'Elites' are Pushing America into 'Paganism'

HUD: Religious groups must abide by LGBT non-bias rule

HUD: Religious groups must abide by LGBT non-bias rule

The New DADT: The Military’s Ban on Transgender Service

Actor James Van Der Beek Tweets His LGBT Support



















Actor James Van Der Beek Tweets His LGBT Support

Elisabeth Hasselbeck Tells Parents to Protect The Hearts of Gender Non-Conforming Youth

Opponents Rally Against Marriage Equality In Maryland: ‘I Believe In Adam And Eve!’

Opponents Rally Against Marriage Equality In Maryland: ‘I Believe In Adam And Eve!’: Some 300 opponents of same-sex marriage rallied in front of the Maryland State House in Annapolis Monday night, calling on lawmakers to abandon legislative efforts to allow gays and lesbians to enter into civil marriages. The protest came on the eve of a Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee hearing at which Gov. Martin O’Malley (D) is...

Anti-Gay TN Senator Stacey Campfield on Anal Sex, Kicked Out of Restaurant

Virginia's Republican controlled Senate rejected a bill that would have prohibited discrimination in state hiring on the basis of sexual orientation.

Va. Senate turnover leads to defeat of anti-discrimination bill

Monday, January 30, 2012

"Let's get drunk and take a bath together."

Backstage at Jil Sander F/W ‘12

"It's 'medical' marijuana." :D

Get a room!

Kiss him there.

Just hanging around.

Tell them not to rape.

"Hell is empty, and all the devils are here."

And he reads, too.

The Weird Love Makers

An affectionate offer.

A detailed piece from the New Yorker about the backgrounds of Tyler Clementi and Dharun Ravi and the events leading up to Clementi's suicide.

The Story of a Suicide

Maggie Gallagher doesn't like gay judges.

Gallagher: Is This the Kind of Judge a President Christie Would Nominate?

A Short History Of Heterosexuality

A Short History Of Heterosexuality: Straight, a new book by Hanne Blank, examines the “short history of heterosexuality” — a term that was not widely used until the “growth of the metropolis.” “[I]t was coined in Germany only in the second half of the 19th century and was first used in English several decades later with the classical sense of...

Michelangelo Signorile puts Patrick "gay men need diapers" Wooden through the wringer, exposing his hypocrisy--he thinks it's okay for straight people to have anal sex--and his ignorance regarding gay sex.

Patrick Wooden, North Carolina Pastor, Defends Anti-Gay Anal Sex Remarks

Homophobic Matt Barber exposes his own hypocrisy . . . on video

Homophobic Matt Barber exposes his own hypocrisy . . . on video

Mario Diaz speaking for Concerned Women for America claims America could lose its blessing from God if Maryland goes for marriage equality

Read the press statement here.

Newt says homosexuality is a pagan behavior

In America, gay people don't have the right to get married, but Christianists have the right to discriminate against LGBT people on the job.

Appeals Court Revives Case of Antigay Counseling Student

Cynthia Nixon: Being Bisexual "Is Not a Choice"

Cynthia Nixon: Being Bisexual "Is Not a Choice"

The Partisans - Rick Santorum - Gifts From God

Linda Harvey of hate group Mission America claims bisexuality and fluidity are evidence that choise and change are possible. A bigot of lowish intelligence would think that. When will this homophobe try to understand rather than using twisted logic to excuse her bogotry?

Read her comments here.

Gingrich war on religion

AIDS Memorial Park Design Winner: Infinite Forest

AIDS Memorial Park Design Winner: Infinite Forest

Christie: Supreme Court nominee who is gay will recuse himself from gay marriage case

Christie: Supreme Court nominee who is gay will recuse himself from gay marriage case

NARTH Downplays Ineffectiveness Of Ex-Gay Therapy By Redefining ‘Change’ To Mean Nothing

NARTH Downplays Ineffectiveness Of Ex-Gay Therapy By Redefining ‘Change’ To Mean Nothing: The National Association for the Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH) issued a statement last week on “Sexual Orientation Change” that attempts to downplay the poor success rates and negative PR surrounding ex-gay therapy — not to mention the harmful impact it has on clients. Without any empirical research to support its conclusions, NARTH advocates redefining...

Romney Touts Support Of Pastor Who Sees A Correlation Between Marriage Equality And 9/11

Romney Touts Support Of Pastor Who Sees A Correlation Between Marriage Equality And 9/11: The Romney campaign has released a letter from Christian conservatives touting the former Massachusetts governor’s “solid social conservative credentials,” “leadership on the marriage issue,” and opposition to abortion rights. Romney “helped prevent our nation from being plunged into even worse legal turmoil following the court decision that forced ‘gay marriage’ upon our Commonwealth,” the broad...

Troy, Michigan Mayor Plays Victim As Recording Confirms Homophobia

Troy, Michigan Mayor Plays Victim As Recording Confirms Homophobia: Janice Daniels, mayor of Troy, Michigan, has faced scrutiny for various anti-gay comments she has made, including her disdain for New York “now that queers can get married there.” Now, a newly obtained recording confirms that she recently told some local gay-straight alliance students that she believes homosexuality is a mental disease. Daniels had denied...

New Jersey Press Criticizes Chris Christie Over Same-Sex Marriage Referendum

New Jersey Press Criticizes Chris Christie Over Same-Sex Marriage Referendum: New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie’s (R) decision to place same-sex marriage on the ballot has drawn some sharp criticism from many in his state. Christie tried to defend the move by arguing that “people would have been happy to have a referendum on civil rights rather than fighting and dying in the streets in the...

Christie Admits ‘Political Climate’ Prevented ‘Referendum’ On Civil Rights, Calls Lawmakers ‘Numnuts’

Christie Admits ‘Political Climate’ Prevented ‘Referendum’ On Civil Rights, Calls Lawmakers ‘Numnuts’: Chris Christie responded to the growing outrage over his claims last week that New Jersey residents should decide whether gay and lesbian people should be allowed to marry by admitting that public opinion may not be receptive to extending civil liberties to minorities. Christie took particular umbrage at African American leaders who condemned his suggestion...

Mitt Romney Heckled by Pro-Amnesty Group

Klingenschmitt Prays Against Home Depot for 'Marching in Parades that Defile Children and Promote Sodomite Sin'

Klingenschmitt Prays Against Home Depot for 'Marching in Parades that Defile Children and Promote Sodomite Sin'

Biblical Birthers? Titus Claims Bible Says Obama Ineligible for Presidency

Biblical Birthers? Titus Claims Bible Says Obama Ineligible for Presidency

Romney Touts Support of Anti-Gay Activists

Romney Touts Support of Anti-Gay Activists

Linda Harvey Demands Parents Fight 'Foolish and Deceptive' Gay Rights

Linda Harvey Demands Parents Fight 'Foolish and Deceptive' Gay Rights

Staver: The APA Bullies Ex-Gay Proponents

UN Secretary General Calls Out African Homophobia

UN Secretary General Calls Out African Homophobia

SAG Award Winners: Plummer, White, Modern Family

SAG Award Winners: Plummer, White, Modern Family


New Hampshire Republicans May Lack Votes To Override Governor’s Veto Of Marriage Repeal Bill

New Hampshire Republicans May Lack Votes To Override Governor’s Veto Of Marriage Repeal Bill: As the New Hampshire legislature prepares to vote on legislation to repeal the state’s same-sex marriage law in the coming days, some Republican lawmakers are hinting that they may not have the votes to override Gov. John Lynch’s (D) expected veto of the measure. Republicans — who hold veto-proof majorities in the both the House...

The Next Battle: The question of trans service could be getting a big boost with the focus OutServe has decided to give it

The Next Battle: The question of trans service could be getting a big boost with the focus OutServe has decided to give it

184 Members of European Parliament support gay rights manifesto

184 Members of European Parliament support gay rights manifesto

Aeroflot forces gay flight attendant to marry woman | Gay Star News

Aeroflot forces gay flight attendant to marry woman Gay Star News

Now that Michele Bachmann is out of the Republican presidental primary race, she now has more time to devote to hating on the gays.

Bachmann speaks to fellow bigots about anti marriage quality amendment

Tennessee Restaurant Throws Out Anti-Gay Lawmaker

Tennessee Restaurant Throws Out Anti-Gay Lawmaker: A restaurant in Knoxville, Tennessee refused to serve state Sen. Stacey Campfield, the man who sponsored the state’s “don’t say gay” bill, compared homosexuality to bestiality, and most recently told Michelangelo Signorile that it’s virtually impossible to spread HIV/AIDS through heterosexual sex. “I hope that Stacy Campfield now knows what if feels like to be...

Washington Post is reporting that not only did Ron Paul know about the racist and homophobic content in the newsletter that bore his name, but that he signed off on the bigoted content in an effort to sell more copies and make more money.

Paul pursued strategy of publishing controversial newsletters, associates say


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But people close to Paul’s operations said he was deeply involved in the company that produced the newsletters, Ron Paul & Associates, and closely monitored its operations, signing off on articles and speaking to staff members virtually every day.

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NOM's Brian Brown alerts those who want to repeal marriage equality in New Hampshire that the vote is on Feb 1.

Read more here.

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It's revolting to see a bunch of bigots jump at the chance to take something away from people they don't like when it costs them nothing to just let it be.

South Dakota Law Puts Bible Back in Public School

KUHNER: Obama threatens religious liberty

KUHNER: Obama threatens religious liberty

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Here's an earlier one from this homophobic Christianist theocrat:

KUHNER: Obama’s homosexual America

Summer





































I love his silky smooth, shaggy brown hair, the mirrored sunglasses, his slim, toned body and those long, long legs.

"Purity Bear never warned me about this kind of thing."

Cute couple. Love the skinny one on the right.

Maybe he could use some pointers from RuPaul, but I think he could be a great drag queen.

Cy Twombly in the ’50s, photographed by Robert Rauschenberg.

Andrej Pejic

Russian Nobleman, most likely at the 1903 Masked Ball at the Winter Palace in St. Petersburg.

Funny

U.S. Senate more progressive than Hollywood























Here are the embarrassing Hollywood statistics, all from The Celluloid Ceiling, a yearly study by Martha Lauzen of San Diego State University...

Of 2002’s top-grossing 100 films:
4% had female directors
8% had female writers
1% had female cinematographers
12% had female editors

And here are a few more stats:
Hollywood guilds are 80 to 90 % white.
No people of color employed by movie studios have the power to greenlight movies.
4 of the 44 partners or board members at the town’s top 5 talent agencies are women. None of the 44 are people of color.
 
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On top of all that, many gay and lesbian actors are still in the closet.  

DICK

If you can eat shrimp, we can eat cock.

I'm the one the Daily Mail warned you about.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

shelter fan video

Genetic or Not, Gay Won’t Go Away

Genetic or Not, Gay Won’t Go Away

Archbishop of York compares David Cameron to a dictator over his support of gay marriage

Archbishop of York compares David Cameron to a dictator over his support of gay marriage

HUD Secretary announces measures to prevent LGBT discrimination

Generations: Chapter 1, Birthday Buddies, June 1942

by Gary Cottle

     I didn’t give much thought to what I was doing. Some secret, primal part of myself had taken over, and I allowed it. Not long before, I realized I had been keeping my foot on the break all my life, but once I became aware of this, I contemplated letting my foot slip, and once I got to New York, I let go. I don’t know how else to explain it. I gave into my instincts. I just let things take their natural course for the first time. There was a good chance I wouldn’t come back, so the few days I had left stateside seemed like my last chance. I wanted to know who I really was before it was too late.
     For three nights in a row, I walked around that city by myself. I should have been scared. I was a nineteen-year-old kid who had never set foot outside of Greenbrier County, West Virginia, before I left for basic training a few weeks before. And even though I didn’t know exactly what I was getting myself into, I was aware that what I was about to do was going to change everything.
     The first night I meandered and tried to get my bearings so that I wouldn’t feel lost or out of place. The second night I observed. I noticed how some of my fellow soldiers went out for one last date with a girl, any girl, a girl they met earlier in the afternoon at a bus stop or in front of a five and dime. They took them to see a movie, or out dancing, or out to dinner, or all three. Some skipped the romance and went right for the hookers. But a few, like myself, had other things in mind.
     On the third night, I was determined to find what I was looking for, and I knew I was heading in the right direction when an old-timer stopped me and told me that I was in the wrong part of town.
     He said, “I’ve lived in this neighborhood for sixty-seven years, and if you had told me I’d one day see what’s been going on around here back when I was your age, I would have called you a damn liar right to your face. I’ve told the police, but they don’t do anything. I’m not saying you can’t hold your own against that kind, a real man like you, but you don’t want to see it. …you do know what I’m talking about, don’t you, son?”
     I thanked him and kept going, and as I walked past him, he told me I was green, a dumb hick who would soon find out what the city was like. Then he seemed to regret insulting me, and he wished me luck “over there.” I kept going, and he added when I was almost out of earshot, “You go back to where you came from when this mess is over, and you forget you ever saw this place. Don’t let this town ruin you.”
     It happened just a few minutes later. I met Sam. He was over six feet tall, skinny, gangly, big Adam’s apple, a wide, mischievous, goofy grin, a few pimples along his jaw line, big ears, soft blond hair and the prettiest, most intense blue eyes I had ever seen. We walked toward one another. I eyed him. He eyed me. And when we were close, he asked me for a light. We stood there under a street lamp smoking and talking about our experiences in the Army so far, where we were from, where we had been, and how long we had before we shipped out. The world seemed to have stopped. No one walked by us. No cars passed. I didn’t hear another sound except for Sam’s voice.
     I thought I had jinxed it when I told him about my wife Helen and my baby boy Roger, but Sam didn’t seem to mind that I was married. He said he had run into a lot of guys who had gotten hitched before the Army got hold of them.
     “How’d you get all those muscles?”
     “I’m a farm boy. I’m used to working hard.”
     “Ah. I worked in my father’s general store,” Sam said. “Guess sweeping up and smiling at customers is an easy life by comparison.”
     I don’t remember exactly how it came up--I was probably just trying to find something to say to keep the conversation going--but I told him my birthday was May 20th. You should have seen those blue eyes of Sam’s shine when I said that. He let out a laugh like I had told a joke, spun around, and stooped down on one knee for a moment.
     “You’re kidding me?”
     “No,” was all I could think of to say.
     “That’s my birthday, too. We were born on the same day. What are the chances?”
     I shrugged to indicate I didn’t know.
     “Frank, my new buddy, that proves it. Fate meant for us to bump into each other tonight,” he stated enthusiastically and with utter conviction.
     I think it was at that moment I fell in love with him. I know I couldn’t stop myself from smiling at his foolishness.
     “Listen, I sprang for a room nearby. It’s not much to look at, but it’s private. There’s a bathroom right down the hall. I’ve got plenty of cigarettes, a bottle of whisky, and a bag of donuts made fresh this morning. Come back there with me.”
     Suddenly the weight of what he was suggesting came down on me. For a fleeting second, I had the urge to punch him. But instead, I just stood there, and I’m pretty sure I blushed.
     Sam got serious and said in a quiet voice, “I know this is your first time. I can tell. I can always tell. But I promise you that nothing is going to happen that you don’t want to happen. It’s a big thing, but I’m asking you to trust me, Frank.”
     That cinched it, because I did trust him. From the moment I laid eyes on him, I trusted that tall, goofy kid. And I knew I liked him.
     I remember his tiny room very well. It had rough plaster painted a dark color, high ceilings, an iron framed half bed covered in a white chenille bedspread, a bureau with a small mirror and a chair. If there was an overhead light, Sam never turned it on. Instead, he used the poodle lamp on the bureau. He flopped down on the bed and invited me to sit beside him. We smoked another cigarette, passed his bottle back and forth and engaged in more small talk.
     I kept staring at him and thinking that we were about to do the things I had done with Helen. It didn’t seem possible, but it was going to happen.  I could feel it, almost picture it. I felt something for Frank that I had never felt for Helen or any woman. I studied the shape of his ears, his crew cut, his neck, his hands, his long fingers and the shape of his mouth.
     Finally, Sam looked at the scarred hardwood floor and said, “Frank, I need for you to relax. If this is going to happen, you need to let it happen. Forget everything you were every told about what men are supposed to do together and what they’re not supposed to do together. Forget what your daddy said. Forget what your preacher said. Forget what your older brother said. And forget what your buddies in school said. You got to turn away from all that bullshit and trust your own body.”
     He turned to me and touched me for the first time. He put his hand on my chest, right over my heart. I think that first touch almost caused me to pass out.
     “It’s in here, Frank. What you want to do is in here. Forget the words in your head.”
     He leaned over and kissed me. I was hesitant for maybe five seconds, but then I couldn’t hold back anymore. Poor Sam was hit by a title wave of lust. I started pulling at my clothes, and then I pulled on his, and he did his best to help. Finally we were naked and kissing and grouping. We did everything that night. He guided me through most of it, explained what went where and how to get the job done, but I’m the one who kept pushing him to show me more, teach me more. I wanted him to let me know and experience everything. We fell asleep with him still inside me and stayed that way for several hours.
     We didn’t get up right away after we awoke. Sam held onto me, and we smoked a couple more cigarettes. He asked me when I figured it out, and I admitted it wasn’t until I was inducted. The doctor asked if I was homosexual, and when I told him I didn’t know what that meant, he said impatiently, “Do you bugger boys?” I said no, but I still didn’t know for sure what he was getting at, but I was starting to get the idea. Oh, I had heard of queers before, but I thought they were men who never grew out of being sissies, men who acted like women. But then I began to think that maybe there was more to it than wanting to wear your mother’s cloths. The doctor planted the seed of an idea in my head, and when I got around all those new guys--guys who were not my neighbors and cousins, not guys I grew up with and thought of as brothers--I noticed that some of them drew my attention more than others. And finally it came to me, a homosexual is a man who had or wanted to have sex with other men. At the same time, I realized I was one. The idea scared the shit out of me, but I couldn’t deny it. And even though I was afraid, the thought of me being intimate with a man in the way I had been intimate with Helen excited me like nothing else had in my whole life.
     “So I guess I made a secret pact with myself that I would be with a man the first chance I got, and here I am.”
     Sam explained that he found out when he was sixteen. He was from Vermont, and his father and uncles had a hunting lodge up there. On one trip, he bunked with a cousin in the loft. It was just the two of them, and the cousin ended up “cornholing” Sam.
     “He said that it was something guys did for one another when there weren’t any girls around. But after he did it to me, I knew I never wanted to be with a girl. I didn’t tell him that, but I knew. After that, I looked at the world in a different way. I started noticing men, and I noticed that some noticed me right back.”
     After we got dressed, Sam made a proposal that I wasn’t expecting. He told me that his family’s lodge was empty most of the time and that we could live there after we got back. He didn’t say “if” we got back, but it was implied nevertheless.
     “Let’s meet there on our birthday.”
     The idea made me feel dizzy. “How would we live? What would we do for money?”
     “There’s a sawmill nearby. We could get jobs there. We wouldn’t need a lot of money.”
     “Sam, I’m married. I have a son.”
     He looked down at his shoes and said, “I don’t want to be a home wrecker, Frank, but your different from the other men I’ve been with. I don’t want this to be the last time we ever see each other. I don’t think I could make it if I knew for sure I’d never see you again.”
     “Sam, I can’t leave my family. Helen doesn’t have any money. She’s living with my folks until I get back. And I wouldn’t want to abandon her and my boy regardless.”
     “I know. I understand. But you might think differently after all of this is over. And maybe you wouldn’t have to leave them. I’d be willing to share you with them, Frank. I think I could do that. Just come to the lodge on our first birthday back here in America. We can work out something then.”
     I wanted to say yes. I wanted to believe that I would be coming home to Sam more than anything, but I had vowed to be there for Helen, and now I was a father.
     “I can’t make any promises. I can’t. I’m sorry.”
     “Then I’ll make one. I’ll be at the lodge on our first birthday when we get back. And I’ll keep going to the lodge on our birthday every year after that.” Then he turned up his lips to form one of his goofy grins, and he added, “I know sooner or later you’ll want another piece of my ass.”
     We kissed then. We stood there in Sam’s cheap rented room, and we kissed like a lot of men kissed their wives before they left for the Army. We knew that one of us or both of us may never see another birthday either here in America or anywhere else. And we knew that it wasn’t really likely that we would meet up again if we did survive. So we kissed like it probably would be the last time. But we had a sliver of hope to hold onto, and that put fire into our kiss, and I managed to leave Sam with a smile on my face. I knew who I was. For the first time in my life, I knew. I was also in love, another first. And I knew that I could have Sam if I wanted him. I thought that maybe I could find a way to make it work.
 
 

Saturday, January 28, 2012

The Manly Art of Knitting by Dave Fougner

You tell 'em.

Boys Cry

Maybe they can't help being stright, but do they have to flaunt it?


Offering By Orestes And Pylades (San Ildefonso Group), White Carrara Marble Sculpture From The Gardens Of Sallust, Rome, Italy, Circa 10 BCE

Ennis a number of years before he met Jack.

The Hills Are Alive

Retiring N.C. Gov. Complicates Marriage Ban

Retiring N.C. Gov. Complicates Marriage Ban

With North Carolina's Democratic governor, Beverly Perdue, retiring, more liberal voters are expected at the polls in May, possibly altering the results of a proposed constitutional marriage equality ban.

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Newsweek

Show-off

If that's a painting of his mother, could anything be more oedipal?

House Resolution 535 in Pennsylvania, sponsored by Rep. Rick Saccone (R-obviously), declares it's "The Year Of The Bible."

House Resolution 535 in Pennsylvania, sponsored by Rep. Rick Saccone (R-obviously), declares it's "The Year Of The Bible." 

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The House of Representatives declares 2012 as the “Year of the Bible” in Pennsylvania in recognition of both the formative influence of the Bible on our Commonwealth and nation and our national need to study and apply the teachings of the holy scriptures.

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Effort to Kill Calif. LGBT Education Act Ramps Up

Effort to Kill Calif. LGBT Education Act Ramps Up

Why Voting on Rights is a Lousy Idea: January 30 Marriage News Watch

Friday, January 27, 2012

Love

Delicate yet masculine.

Mountain Stream

James Dean

Something to do with your hands...

That's what I'm afraid of.

I will be your friend...

Anti-Gay Legislators Try To Prevent Same-Sex Military Marriages — Again

Anti-Gay Legislators Try To Prevent Same-Sex Military Marriages — Again: Rep. Tim Huelskamp (R-KS) has introduced a new bill (HR 3828) that would prevent military chaplains from performing same-sex marriages on military bases — even in states where such marriages would be valid. The bill attempts to affirm the rights of military chaplains not to perform such marriages (even though Pentagon policy already specifies as such)...

Nothing says "pro-life" like a public hanging.

North Carolina GOP Lawmaker Calls For Bringing Back Public Hangings, Starting With Abortion Providers

EBay Official: Company Won’t Move Jobs To Utah If It Doesn’t Pass LGBT Employment Protections

EBay Official: Company Won’t Move Jobs To Utah If It Doesn’t Pass LGBT Employment Protections: eBay General Counsel Brandon Pace warned Utah lawmakers on Thursday that the company may reconsider relocating 3,000 workers to the state if it does not extend employment protections the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity. The state is currently considering such a measure, sponsored by state Sen. Ben McAdams (D). At a discussion with...

James Robison believes the eletion is about choosing between good and evil, and of course if you don't vote the way he wants you to, you're on the evil side.

James Robison: This year’s election is far more than a choice between candidates or parties. It is often between night and day, good and evil, a biblical worldview that puts God at the top and security that can be found only in the shelter and shadow of the Almighty or a worldview that puts man first with dependence upon an anti-God system, an ever-increasing, all-powerful federal government continually making promises that cannot be fulfilled while destroying the prosperity and blessing God offers through its uncontrolled excess and damaging entitlements. Many Americans have believed the lie that everybody can live at the expense of everybody else and pass off personal responsibility and accountability.

Read more here.

Fischer: Bill Clinton Responsible For Rise In Oral Cancer

Were They Cowards? Maryland's First Lady Apologizes for Saying So

Were They Cowards? Maryland's First Lady Apologizes for Saying So

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Gregoire and OMalley on marriage

Maryland’s First Lady: Opponents Of Marriage Equality Are ‘Cowards’

Maryland’s First Lady: Opponents Of Marriage Equality Are ‘Cowards’: Maryland First Lady Katie O’Malley lashed out against opponents of same-sex marriage while speaking on Thursday at the 24th annual Conference on Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Equality. “[T]here were some cowards that prevented it from passing,” O’Malley said, referring to last year’s unsuccessful effort to pass a bill allowing gays and lesbians to marry...

Federal Judge Finds Same-Sex Long-Term Care Ban Unconstitutional

Federal Judge Finds Same-Sex Long-Term Care Ban Unconstitutional: U.S. District Judge Claudia Wilken says she will likely overturn an aspect of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act that excludes California state employees who are in same-sex domestic partnerships from receiving federal tax benefits related to long-term health coverage as the law appears to be “motivated by antigay animus”. In a written statement, Wilken...

Tennessee State Senator Falsely Claims HIV Came From The Gay Community, Cites Advice Column From 1988 As Evidence

Tennessee State Senator Falsely Claims HIV Came From The Gay Community, Cites Advice Column From 1988 As Evidence: Tennessee state Sen. Stacey Campfield (R), the man who sponsored Tennessee’s “don’t say gay” bill and once compared homosexuality to bestiality, now has a theory about the spread of HIV/AIDS. On Thursday, Campfield told the Huffington Post’s Michael Signorile that it’s virtually impossible to spread HIV/AIDS through heterosexual sex and that AIDS came from the...

Alabama School Under Scrutiny After Official Tells A Student To Remove A Gay Rights Sweatshirt

Alabama School Under Scrutiny After Official Tells A Student To Remove A Gay Rights Sweatshirt: The Southern Poverty Law Center has warned an Alabama school district against infringing on a student’s freedom of speech. Elizabeth Garrett, an openly gay sophomore at Brookwood High School, said a school administrator told her to take off her sweatshirt that read, “Warning, This Individual Infected With ‘The Gay,’ Proceed With Caution,” because the official...

Governors O’Malley And Gregoire Criticize Christie For Advocating A Popular Vote On Marriage Equality

Governors O’Malley And Gregoire Criticize Christie For Advocating A Popular Vote On Marriage Equality: Democratic Governors Martin O’Malley (MD) and Chris Gregoire (WA), who are both pursuing marriage equality bills in their state legislatures this session, appeared on MSNBC this morning to join the growing outcry against Gov. Chris Christie’s (R-NJ) suggestion that voters should decide if gay and people can marry: – O’MALLEY: “I think the best resolution...

Minnesotans Split On Marriage Inequality Amendment

Minnesotans Split On Marriage Inequality Amendment: Voters in Minnesota are divided about a proposed constitutional amendment to outlaw same-sex marriage, a new Public Policy Opinion survey finds. Forty-eight percent of voters say they support defining marriage as between one man and one woman, while 44 percent are opposed. “It’s very much a generational issue- voters under 65 oppose the amendment but...

Tennessee Anti-Transgender ‘Bathroom Bill’ Dies Without Senate Version

Tennessee Anti-Transgender ‘Bathroom Bill’ Dies Without Senate Version: The “Bathroom Harassment Act” introduced by Tennessee state Rep. Richard Floyd (R) has died for this legislative session. The bill would have fined transgender individuals $50 for using the restroom that matches their gender identity. Because Sen. Bo Watson (R) withdrew his version of the bill and the bill filing deadline has now passed, Floyd’s...

Cynthia Nixon’s Comments Prove We Still Don’t Know How To Talk About Sexual Identity

Cynthia Nixon’s Comments Prove We Still Don’t Know How To Talk About Sexual Identity: The LGBT blogosphere has been wrestling with comments made by actress Cynthia Nixon (immortally Sex in the City‘s ”Miranda”) to the New York Times that she chose to be a lesbian: I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay...

Schlafly and Noebel: McCarthy was a 'Hero,' Communism Nearly Upon Us

Schlafly and Noebel: McCarthy was a 'Hero,' Communism Nearly Upon Us

Dobson: Kids Forced to Learn 'Adult Sex Perverse Behavior'

Dobson: Kids Forced to Learn 'Adult Sex Perverse Behavior'

Jeffrey Kuhner Calls for 'Civil Disobedience' to Combat Obama's 'Repressive State'

Jeffrey Kuhner Calls for 'Civil Disobedience' to Combat Obama's 'Repressive State'

Michael Brown: Gays Use Youth Suicide Victims as 'Pawns'

Michael Brown: Gays Use Youth Suicide Victims as 'Pawns'



FRC: 'Rebel Fleet Surrenders to Gay Empire'

FRC: 'Rebel Fleet Surrenders to Gay Empire'

Staver: Fighting to Literally Save Western Civilization

Low IQ & Conservative Beliefs Linked to Prejudice

Low IQ & Conservative Beliefs Linked to Prejudice


This is a trailer for a new film about Ugandan gay activist David Kato who was murdered last year.


Call Me Kuchu - Trailer from Call Me Kuchu on Vimeo.

Fox News Whitewashes Student Essay Calling For Gays To Be Executed

Fox News Whitewashes Student Essay Calling For Gays To Be Executed

A study has found that cohabiting couples are happier than married couples, and Focus On The Family doesn't like it much.

Study: Cohabiting Better Than Marriage

More than 71 percent of respondents who were freshmen in 2011 indicated same-sex couples should be able to marry, up from 64.9 percent two years earlier

The California Secretary of State has given a conservative group the green light to start collecting signatures to repeal the FAIR Education Act, which requires all school curriculum to be LGBT-inclusive.

SB 48 repeal proposal cleared for circulation

Mitt Romney’s Foundation Funded Ex-Gay Therapy Group

Mitt Romney’s Foundation Funded Ex-Gay Therapy Group: Mitt Romney 2012 tax returns reveal that the former Massachusetts governor donated more than $4 million to the Mormon Church, which is actively opposing marriage equality around the country, and gave “at least $35,000” to anti-gay groups like the Massachusetts Family Institute (MFI) and the Beckett Fund through his charitable foundation. As Rachel Maddow and...

Flaunt it, baby!


Now I will tackle one more issue, gay people and bullying. I do not tell people, "look, I sleep with men and you better like it and not say a word about it. If you do, you need to go to prison or worse!" If I did, I would be facing multiple attacks daily. So for LGBT to feel that it's ok to wear who they sleep with on their sleeve and not have anything said about it, is a little ridiculous. I had a gay manager that went about what she did and did not make an issue out of who she slept with. We all knew but she wasn't ready to fight anyone who said anything about it, and for that reason to my knowledge, few, if any, said anything. If she had come in saying, "I'm gay now what do you have to say about it? You better flaunt and approve of me or you're screwed up in the head," the outcome would have certainly been different. Bullying has existed for years...but until LGBT...kids just suffered. I'm sure a law will eventually be passed for bullies of LGBT but as for the rest of the ugly, poor, disabled, African American kids, they will be lost in the shuffle and continue to suffer.

--Comment posted on my Facebook wall by a former friend

One of my earliest memories is an image of a man and woman in a brass bed riding down the street. It was a scene from the old TV series Love American Style. Those who remember it might recall that fireworks were used in the opening credits. Of course the big brass bed was the conjugal bed, and the fireworks symbolized orgasmic release. I didn’t understand this when I was five years old, but the iconography of heterosexual sex and romance were already being planted in my mind before I even started school. I’m not complaining about Love American Style. It was a fun show. I liked it. And I don’t think I was too young for it. But since I’m gay, I didn’t exactly relate directly to the heterosexuality on display. It would have been nice if I had seen some gay couples enjoying the comic bliss of romance, but they didn’t show that kind of thing on TV back in the early 70’s.

Of course Love American Style was merely the tip of the ice burg. Lots of TV shows, movies, fairytales and stories depicted heterosexual romance and courtship. I knew that my parents were married. I knew that the couple that lived beside us was married. I knew many heterosexual couples were married. And that’s fine. I’m not knocking heterosexuality. I don’t feel as though I was exposed to it too early. I don’t feel I was damaged by it. But I wasn’t being told the full story.

When I was ten or eleven, some of my friends discovered nudie magazines, and they let me look at the ladies with them. Some of the women posed in ways that were quite provocative, not just nude, but highly suggestive. I began to pick up on how certain clues--short shorts, tight blouses, etc.--were meant to convey that a woman might be sexually available. About the same time, I noticed how men indicated that they were out on the make. Some wore tight jeans, stuffed their t-shirts into their back pockets and swaggered about bare-chested. There was something about the facial expressions of these men and women that told me they were searching for special company. And when they found a date, they let everyone know by holding hands, groping and kissing their catch. How could I miss the heterosexual dance?  Or the fact that it seemed to have been going on forever? 






















While in high school, our local cable company offered a porn channel, and for a couple of weeks, it was given to everyone free of charge. Being the curious and hormone driven teenager that I was, I tuned in late at night a few times after my parents had gone to sleep. One scene involved an older woman seducing a teenage boy. She had him strip and then gave him oral sex. Then she had him put his penis inside her vagina after she had inserted a vibrator in her anus. She talked to him and gave him instructions as if he were a small child. She asked him if he could feel the vibrator in her anus providing extra stimulation to his penis while he screwed her. He shook his head yes like a dutiful little boy, and she told him how lucky he was that a real woman who knew how to please a man was taking his virginity.

There was some homosexual porn on that channel, too, but it was fake lesbian porn that had been produced to turn on heterosexual men. One scene was a period piece involving a young girl who was to get married the next day. The girl’s aunt and mother had a secret talk with the girl so that they could tell her about the facts of life. The aunt explained that her soon to be husband’s penis would get hard like a finger and that he would want to put it inside her. When the girl failed to understand, the mother held up the girl’s dress, and the aunt took down her knickers and fingered her until she had an orgasm. Then the mother and aunt took turns going down on the girl.

These images and scenarios were streamed into my bedroom when I was about fourteen. I’m not complaining. We all have our fantasies, and some of them are wild and woolly.  And I dind't mind seeing the women either.  I think women are beautiful. I just don’t want to have sex with them. In a way, the porn films were instructional. I learned a few things about female anatomy and how women got off. I was curious about those kinds of things. But what bothers me is that while growing up I didn't have the pleasure of seeing two men happily living together, or holding hands or kissing.  Where were my role models? 

Of course things have changed, and now in certain parts of the country, some gay people are as bold as brass. You might see a bare-chested lesbian on a motorcycle or a gay boy stripped down to his Speedos if you go to a Pride Parade. You might see gay people holding hands and kissing right out in the open if you go to certain neighborhoods in San Francisco, Palm Springs, New York or Key West. Some may make drunken fools of themselves as many heterosexual kids did every single weekend night while I was living in the college town of Morgantown, WV.

My former friend whom I quoted above went to Key West a couple of years ago, and on discovering that I was gay, she felt the need to inform me of all the lurid homosexual shenanigans she saw there--she told me about peeking in at a bar where go-go boys danced in their skivvies on tabletops and about a lesbian who made a couple of passes at her in the street. She told me that “decent” people were put off by such things.

It seems she forgot that there is a so-called gentleman’s club less than twenty miles from her house where young ladies pole dance for those fine, “decent” heterosexual men who live around her. It seems she has forgotten that more than a few of those fine, “decent” heterosexual men can come on a bit too strong after downing a few drinks.

If you don’t like people dancing in suggestive ways in bars with few clothes on, then fine. If you don’t like it when people don’t know when to back off after having had too much to drink, then fine. But if you’re going to hold gay people to a different standard, and suggest that all of us or most of us are always out there partying like the world will end tomorrow, then you’re a bigot.

My former friend also felt the need to tell me that she thought homosexuality was a choice, and that older men or boys seduced young boys into it before they knew what they were getting themselves into. She expressed fear that a pervy older gay man or boy would get hold of her son and “make him go wrong.”

I did my best to explain that being gay wasn’t a choice and that you couldn’t “turn” someone gay. I figured that maybe she was confused about the issue and that she had gotten hold of some bad information. But rather than listening to me, I found out that she was clinging to this idea of choice and recruitment a year later. That’s what bigots do. They ignore the truth and hold onto their negative stereotypes. They’re not really interested in the truth. They’re interested in maintaining the fiction that they’re superior.

The final straw came when my former friend posted the above comment on my Facebook wall. It seemed to me that someone who would say such things is not my friend. Aside from the fact that her statement is absurd, it is devoid of respect or consideration. This is a person who doesn’t care one bit if she hurts me.

I find it ironic that she accused gay people, and I suppose me specifically, of flaunting our sexuality. I’ve known this person since we were in middle school, and she didn’t know I was gay until we were in our forties. And she still wouldn’t know even now if she hadn’t asked me to friend her on Facebook. I saw no reason to tell her. We now live on opposite sides of the country. However, I didn't want to deny her friend request.  She had been good to me in many ways in the past.  But I think of my Facebook wall as my space, so I decided if she wanted to be there, then she was going to see the gay related news stories I read and pictures of men I think are attractive. I guess she wasn't expecting me to be so open and direct there, but if she thinks I’m flaunting it after thirty years of discretion, then whatever.

As for her claim that she has always been discrete and that she could expect to be attacked if she were open about her sexuality… Please. This person told me about the man she was dating back when we were in high school. She told me about her subsequent boyfriends after that. And nearly everyone who knows her is aware of the fact that she’s married and has a son. She may as well have STRAIGHT tattooed on her forehead.

You really find out who your friends are when you come out to them. Some don’t care. Some are shocked at first but come around in time. And others show their true homophobic colors. I never felt free to be myself back in the conservative little town where I grew up. That is where my former friend lives to this day. If she ever wondered why I never had a girlfriend or got married, she certainly never asked. I imagine that she did suspect, but when she was confronted with the truth, she seemed to lose the ability to remain civil toward me. I guess she thought that if I was “that way” I should just keep it to myself even on my Facebook wall and when she was telling me how “decent” straight people found my tribe disgusting when they let their hair down in the handful of spots across the country where we go to be free. Never mind that straight people are allowed to do the exact same things everywhere, even in our small conservative hometown. I guess she was willing to be my friend so long as she could say whatever she wanted while I stayed silent and remembered my place. Um…no thanks.

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A bigot is someone who jumps to negative conclusions about a group based on incomplete or faulty information and ignores evidence that would contradict those negative conclusions.

A revolting bigot is someone who jumps to still more negative conclusions about a group based on incomplete or faulty information after their first negative conclusions were proven to be questionable.

A revolting bigoted jackass is someone who does all of the above while posing as a friend of a member of the maligned group.


They're going to think poorly of you no matter what you do because that's their goal.  They can't go on thinking they're better than you unless they do hold onto their bigotry, so you may as well flaunt it.